Recently I have been getting asked the infamous question of: “So, when are you having your next baby?!”
Although I love the fact that people are excited about us having more kids in the future, I often think to myself right after getting asked this question, “what do they think I am I - a magician?!” No, but really, what do people think...that we can just get pregnant in the snap of a finger?
It’s honestly not even their fault. People are just programmed to ask these questions that society has us thinking, that their should be this certain “way” and “order” to do things. For instance, as soon as you graduate it’s “what college are you going to”, then immediately after graduating “did you find a job yet” or “did you find your own place yet” and then the good ole “omg when are you guys getting married!”
Can’t we ever just have a moment to breathe and think about all that we’ve accomplished - before going right into the next big life decision?? And why does there always have to be a right or wrong way to do things? Everyone is their own person - and no two peoples lives - will ever be the same. Seriously, even if you have a twin your lives are still going to turn out different!
I remember when we first started to tell people we were pregnant with Naomi, (you get a lot of unwanted and unasked for questions when you’re pregnant LOL) but someone really said to me “Oh there’s no way you got pregnant on purpose!” And I said “I mean yeah, I kind of knew what would happen, we are adults” and she responded “No, it had to be an accident”....ALL because we weren’t married yet.
Evan and I have always done things “backwards”; we had a baby before marriage, and then got married just on our own in a different state, all while already living together for a few years. I know, crazy right?!
I just wish people would be more kind. More kind with their words. More kind with their actions. And more kind with their thoughts.
Yes, obviously we would love to have another baby, but this stuff doesn’t just happen in a day. And sometimes for some people, it can be even harder than that. So the next time you go to ask someone “Hey, when are you having your next baby already” how about asking how they are, or how the child they already have is & how life is going with a crazy toddler!! (Lol)
I know that I am enjoying every moment of my life right now, with my little family - because this, right here, is what I have in front of me - is all I’ve ever dreamed of and more. Sometimes I think we need to sit back and appreciate all that is in front of us - instead of always wanting more. (I know it’s just a human instinct, we all do it)
And most importantly, always try to remember that - words can leave a bigger impact than you know - so always choose kind ones.
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